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If The Smear Campaign Was Actually True…Lisa Nadig

This is basic common sense: if the smear campaign was actually true…

  1. My ex never would have asked that I have Residential Custody (80/20) in his first two divorce petitions.
  2. I would not be a licensed educator in the state of Illinois – I would have lost my license. Of course I did not.
  3. There would have been DCFS findings against me. Of course there were none. However, there WERE DCFS findings against my ex for instigating false and harassing investigations. This was discussed at length in Dr. Finn’s 604 Custody Evaluation.
  4. I would have been arrested. Of course I was not.
  5. My ex wouldn’t have had to file eight custody petitions to finally manufacture a fraudulent custody switch.
  6. There would have been criminal proceedings against me. Of course there were none.
  7. There would have been no eye-witness to the corruption of the Child Representative – Fraud On The Court: https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/2016/03/30/natalie-koga-confronted-with-eye-witness-to-her-corruption/
  8. There would not have been findings of “Pathological Parental Alienation” against my ex in the court ordered custody evaluation.
  9. The judge, child rep and one of my ex’s lawyers would not have abruptly resigned after being exposed. https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/lawyers-judges-retire-to-make-misconduct-investigations-disappear/
  10. The corrupt Child Rep Natalie Koga would not have had to resort to lying and manipulating to get rid of ethical mental health providers who refused to lie for her, and obtain an order for mental health providers with sanctions on their licenses near the end of the case, to help her manufacture a change of custody – Fraud On The Court. https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/2016/03/30/dr-jonathan-gamze-misconduct-3/ https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/2017/02/25/dr-daniel-fishers-misconduct-with-michael-volpe/
  11. There would have been an actual Evidentiary Hearing in Family Court. No such hearing ever occurred – Fraud On The Court.
  12. There would have been actual evidence against me in the Family Court case. Of course there was none. There was, however, significant evidence against my ex, which the Child Rep hid from the court – Fraud On The Court. https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/2019/09/12/a-summary-of-my-case-corruption-legal-financial-abuse-maternal-deprivation-elder-abuse-cyber-stalking-threats/
  13. I would not have received the all clear on my mental health evaluation, while it blamed any trauma on the protracted financial/legal abuse. – Fraud On The Court . https://songsunsilenced.files.wordpress.com/2016/01/nadig-051915-ltrsfromcounselingcenter.pdf

Formal Complaint To UN Commission on Status of Women Denouncing US Government & States: Systematic Human Rights Violations Against Women & Children In Family Court

On Sunday, August 1, 2021, over one hundred mothers submitted a formal complaint to the United Nations Commission on the Status of Women denouncing the United States Government, and the states within for systematic human rights violations waged against women and children throughout the family court systems in the country. The Complaint alleges human rights violations that include systematic gender bias, discrimination on the basis of sex, and facilitation of physical, sexual, financial, legal, and emotional abuse of women and children.⁣⁣The Complaint was submitted by advocacy groups One Mom’s Battle and Custody Peace with over one hundred women throughout the United States joining in the Complaint.

Through personal letters submitted with the Complaint, these brave women provided firsthand accounts of their experience suffering injustices and human rights violations in family court.⁣⁣The Claim submitted to the UN documents disturbing trends throughout family courts in the U.S. including a failure to recognize coercive control tactics as domestic violence warranting court intervention, the tendency of judges to discredit mothers’ child abuse allegations particularly when the father alleges parental alienation as a counterclaim, the weaponization of the family court system itself by an abuser as a means to harass and control a domestic violence victim, punishment of women who raise child safety and abuse concerns by stripping them of custody rights, and judges’ bias towards and unfavorable treatment of women who resist shared parenting with an ex-intimate partner who abused them and/or their child, often leading to a dismissal of these women as simply angry, emotional or crazy.⁣⁣

Learn more, donate to the movement, or to join the Global Family Court Advocacy Community at www.custody-peace.org

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Spears Attorney Petitions For Removal Of Father As Conservator

Britney Spears Finally Has Her Own Attorney. Petition For Removal Of Her Father As Conservator Filed.

At age 39, after 13 years of an abusive, exploitative Conservatorship, Britney Spears finally has her own attorney. Matthew Rosengart said in documents filed in Los Angeles Superior court on Monday that the current legal arrangement “has grown increasingly toxic and is simply no longer tenable.” Here is the filing:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1iDcC9GzQtyzhiQ8DqrieW4CA7O6Sf6kg/view

Upcoming Online Seminar On Protection From Guardianship & Conservatorship Abuse, Mind Freedom International, 7/28 6-8pm EST

From MindFreedom International:

On July 28, from 6:00-8:00 ET, we will be presenting our 7th free monthly ‘Judi’s Room’ in the spirit of Judi Chamberlin who dedicated her life to organizing for human rights. This is a virtual event. Pre-registration is required HERE.

Judi’s Room is a partnership of MindFreedom International and I Love You Lead On.  

Why are we discussing the following topic?

Conservatorship/Guardianship: Protecting Vulnerable Individuals or Exploitation?

Brittany Spears leaked public testimony HERE on how she continues to be mistreated has brought much needed attention to the abuses rampant in the guardian and conservator system.  She has been stripped of her rights by a complex conservatorship which treats her as a money-making object and denies her personhood. People with disabilities, as well as the elderly are too easily taken advantage of under the false principle that it is “for their own good.”  Anyone can be vulnerable. The presenters will describe the control that guardians have and will engage in dialogue with attendees on what can be done to change a system that exploits those who are vulnerable. 

As with all previous Judi’s Room meetings, a panel of experts will share their perspectives, followed by a facilitated discussion.

Facilitator   

Jim Gottstein is the author of The Zyprexa Papers and founder of PsychRights whose mission is to mount a strategic litigation campaign against forced psychiatric drugging and electroshock. Susan Fitzmaurice is a lifelong disability advocate and disabled with multiple disabilities.  She has parented two young disabled people and made very different choices about guardianship resulting with very different consequences. She has a long history using the internet to provide disability support. Her first sexuality and disability website is over 25 years old.  She created the first web-based resources for people with disabilities after the Katrina hurricane. She currently is devoted to the ILove You, Lead On Community – a space where disability and all its intersections are celebrated. 
     Dohn Hoyle is the Public Policy Director of The Arc of Michigan and long-time advocate for the rights of people with disabilities. Dohn helped to rewrite the Michigan Mental Health Code to include person-centered planning and to eliminate the term mental retardation; was instrumental in the closure of specialized nursing homes for children and people with developmental disabilities, and the Regional Centers for People with Developmental Disabilities in his state.  Dohn convenes the Howell Group, an organization of people across Michigan who intend to see that people with disabilities have the opportunity to experience what we know is right and they desire, and Advocates Concerned with Integrated Care, a group of disability organizations representing the concerns of persons who are eligible for Medicaid and Medicare and receive supports.     Miranda Spencer is a staff editor at the webzine Mad in America.  A longtime journalist and media critic, specializing in health, science, and social justice, her work is informed by her lived experience in the mental health system.

Pre-registration is required. To register click HERE

To view/share a flyer for this event, click HERE

Judge Sentences Couple To Prison In Guardianship Fraud Case

An Albuquerque married couple who pleaded guilty in 2019 but then failed to appear for sentencing in an $11 million fraud case involving a firm that provided guardianship and other services to people with special needs now face years in prison.By Associated Press|July 16, 2021, at 12:55 p.m.

ALBUQUERQUE, N.M. (AP) — An Albuquerque married couple who pleaded guilty in 2019 but then failed to appear for sentencing in an $11 million fraud case involving a firm that provided guardianship and other services to people with special needs now face years in prison.

A federal judge on Thursday sentenced Susan K. Harris to 47 years in prison and William S. Harris to 15 years and also ordered them to pay restitution to victims.

Susan Harris, 74, was president of Ayudando Guardians Inc. and William Harris, 60, worked as a guardian.

U.S. District Judge Martha Vazquez said the couple’s criminal conduct left many former clients destitute and homeless.

Susan Harris pleaded guilty to conspiracy, mail fraud, aggravated identity theft, money laundering and conspiracy to commit money laundering. William Harris pleaded guilty to conspiracy to defraud the United States and to commit money laundering.

https://www.usnews.com/news/best-states/new-mexico/articles/2021-07-16/judge-sentences-couple-to-prison-in-guardianship-fraud-case#:~:text=A%20federal%20judge%20on%20Thursday,60%2C%20worked%20as%20a%20guardian.

Trust Beneficiary Rights – It is a crime to interfere with a Trust Beneficiary’s legal rights to payment, information, and an accounting of the Trust.

I shouldn’t be forced to publish the legal rights of a Trust Beneficiary on the internet because of an ex-husband’s interference in Son receiving copy of the Trust. But here it is. It’s a crime to interfere with a Trust Beneficiary’s legal rights.

Trust Beneficiaries have the right to the document itself! And they have all the other rights listed blow. (At the bottom, there is a link to the new Illinois Trust code.)

  • Payment. Current beneficiaries have the right to distributions as set forth in the trust document.
  • Right to information. Current and remainder beneficiaries have the right to be provided enough information about the trust and its administration to know how to enforce their rights.
  • Right to an accounting. Current beneficiaries are entitled to an accounting. An accounting is a detailed report of all income, expenses, and distributions from the trust. Usually trustees are required to provide an accounting annually, but that may vary, depending on the terms of the trust. Beneficiaries may also be able to waive the accounting.
  • Remove the trustee. Current and remainder beneficiaries have the right to petition the court for the removal of the trustee if they believe the trustee isn’t acting in their best interest. Trustees have an obligation to balance the needs of the current beneficiary with the needs of the remainder beneficiaries, which can be difficult to manage.
  • End the trust. In some circumstances, if all the current and remainder beneficiaries agree, they can petition the court to end the trust. State laws vary on when this is allowed. Usually, the purpose of the trust must have been fulfilled or be impossible.

https://www.elderlawanswers.com/5-rights-that-trust-beneficiaries-have-15244

https://www.llflegal.com/the-new-illinois-trust-code-what-trustees-beneficiaries-and-estate-planners-need-to-know#:~:text=Of%20the%20trust’s%20existence%2C%20the,within%2090%20days%20of%20acceptance)

Britney Spears FULL Conservatorship (Leaked HQ Audio) Opening Testimony

My Father’s Trust Says Nobody But Bank Can Be Involved In My Son’s Money

To be absolutely clear, the terms of my Father’s Trust are that neither myself or my ex-husband can touch my Son’s money that was left to him by my Father. Neither I, or my ex-husband are allowed to be involved in the distribution of my Son’s money. His money is to be administered by the bank trustee ONLY, Citizens State Bank of Lena, Illinois, Trust Department.

I have reason for concern that my ex-husband may have tried to interfere with my Son’s communication with the bank trustee, because of how enraged he became when I mailed my Son a copy of my Dad’s Trust with a letter trying to give my Son the money I’ve set aside for him.

He has a well-documented history of intercepting & aggressively interfering w/ communications to my Son from family members and friends, and issuing threats.

He has also caused property damage to people trying to communicate with my Son.

My ex-husband should just get a life already. Or go back to where he came from before all his felony fraud finally catches up with him.

?WHY? would my ex-husband care if I sent my Son a copy of the Trust that he is a legal beneficiary of? It is his legal right to have this document, AND an accounting of the Trust from the Trust Department. My ex-husband should WANT our Son to have a copy of this document, a full accounting of the Trust, and to communicate with the bank Trustee regarding his own money.

We are concerned for my Son’s well-being, his financial freedom, and his personal freedom in general. My Son can call me any time, night or day, I don’t care if it’s 2am and he needs me, I will drop whatever I’m doing, I don’t care if I’m sleeping – he can call me at 815-242-2387, Google Voice. My Son can write me at P.O. Box 143, Galena, IL 61036, or he can call me and I will have a car sent to pick him up immediately no matter where he is. My Son is not alone. He is loved and he is important for himself, not because he’s someone’s cash cow.

And if my ex-husband and his friends want to try stalking & threatening me again, I’ll just publish all his sick, disgusting crap for the world to see like I did the last time. After all, bullies are such cowards and sunlight really is the best disinfectant.

We are also concerned because of my ex-husband’s well documented history of felony fraud:

Abusive Power And Control

The following is an excerpt of an excellent resource on Abusive Power And Control behaviors from Wikipeda. Please see the link at the bottom of this excerpt for the complete article. It does a great job of showing many of the power and control tactics used by abusive, controlling, and manipulative people in one short article. It is also helpful in that it lists what most would consider as “positive behaviors”, i.e. doing “nice things” for someone. Most articles on abuse, power and control, and coercive control focus on the overtly negative behaviors, but leave out these positive behaviors that are also used to coerce and control others.

However, it does omit Suicidality. Many abusive, controlling and manipulative people also use threats of suicide as a means of coercive control, emotional abuse and blackmail. These suicidal threats can be overt, or more subtle references to suicide, with a manipulative, controlling intent.

Abusive power and control (also controlling behavior and coercive control) is commonly used by an abusive person to gain and maintain power and control over another person in order to subject that victim to psychologicalphysicalsexual, or financial abuse. The motivations of the abuser are varied and can include devaluationenvy, personal gain, personal gratificationpsychological projection, or just for the sake of the enjoyment of exercising power and control.[1]

Controlling abusers use tactics to exert power and control over their victims. The tactics themselves are psychologically and sometimes physically abusive. Control may be exerted through economic abuse, limiting the victim, as they may not have the means to resist or leave the abuse.[2] The goal of the abuser is to control, intimidate, and influence the victim to feel they do not have an equal voice in the relationship.[3]

Manipulators and abusers often control their victims with a range of tactics, including, but not limited to, positive reinforcement (such as praisesuperficial charmflatteryingratiationlove bombingsmilinggifts, attention), negative reinforcement (taking away aversive tasks or items), intermittent or partial reinforcement, psychological punishment (such as naggingsilent treatmentswearingthreatsintimidationemotional blackmailguilt trips, inattention) and traumatic tactics (such as verbal abuse or explosive anger).[4]

The vulnerabilities of the victim are exploited with those who are particularly vulnerable being most often selected as targets.[4][5][6] Traumatic bonding (also popularly known as Stockholm syndrome) can occur between the abuser and victim as the result of ongoing cycles of abuse in which the intermittent reinforcement of reward and punishment creates powerful emotional bonds that are resistant to change and a climate of fear.[7] An attempt may be made to normaliselegitimiserationalisedeny, or minimise the abusive behaviour, or blame the victim for it.[8][9][10]

Isolationgaslightingmind gameslyingdisinformationpropagandadestabilisationbrainwashing, and divide and rule are other strategies that are often used. The victim may be plied with alcohol or drugs or deprived of sleep to help disorientate them.[11][12] Based on statistical evidence, certain personality disorders correlate with abusive tendencies of individuals with those specific personality disorders when also compiled with abusive childhoods themselves. [13]

The seriousness of coercive control in modern Western societies has been increasingly realised with changes to the law in several countries so it is a definable criminal offence. In conjunction with this there have been increased attempts by the legal establishment to understand the characteristics and effects of coercive control in legal terminology. For example, on January 1, 2019, Ireland enacted the Domestic Violence Act 2018, which allowed for the practice of coercive control to be identifiable based upon its effects on the victim. And on this basis defining it as: ‘any evidence of deterioration in the physical, psychological, or emotional welfare of the applicant or a dependent person which is caused directly by fear of the behaviour of the respondent’.[14] On a similar basis of attempting to understand and stop the widespread practice of coercive control, in 2019, the UK government made teaching about what coercive control was a mandatory part of the education syllabus on relationships.[15] While coercive control is often considered in the context of an existing intimate relationship, when it is used to elicit a sexual encounter it is legally considered as being a constituent part of sexual abuse or rape. When it is used to begin and maintain a longer term intimate relationship it is considered to be a constituent element of sexual slavery.” https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abusive_power_and_control

Gaslighters Tactics: Double-Bind, Lisa Nadig

Grandville, MA“If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating…”
from “If” by Rudyard Kipling

This is part one in a series exploring the various tactics Gaslighters use to silence, control, isolate, marginalize, and psychologically torture their victims.  This article will explore the double bind – the no-win situation engineered by the Gaslighter.  One psychoanalyst, Lenoard Shengold, described this process as “soul murder”.

Gaslight_1944_trailer(3)Gaslighting, at it’s very core, is an attempt to “drive someone crazy”, and to orchestrate this belief in the victim’s support system, to isolate them.  It’s a calculated, preemptive strategy to discredit the victim, so that the Gaslighter can abuse with impunity, while even recruiting proxies to join in.  Thus, the abuser escapes accountability, the victim is alone, making it impossible to fight back, while a group of proxy abusers is formed, frequently even from the victim’s own family, who will carry on the abuse, group or family mobbing and social bullying, even in their absence.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes including low self-esteem. Using denial, misdirection, contradiction, and misinformation, gaslighting involves attempts to destabilize the victim and delegitimize the victim’s beliefs. Instances can range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents occurred, to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.”

Gaslight“The term originates in the systematic psychological manipulation of a victim by her husband in Patrick Hamilton’s 1938 stage play Gas Light,[4] and the film adaptations released in 1940 and 1944.[5] In the story, the husband attempts to convince his wife and others that she is insane by manipulating small elements of their environment and insisting that she is mistaken, remembering things incorrectly, or delusional when she points out these changes.   Gaslighting-Wikipedia

One of the most insidious, underhanded tactics Gaslighters use, is to manufacture situations where the victim cannot confront the inherent dilemma, and therefore can neither opt out, or resolve the situation.  So, the double-bind is two conflicting demands, neither of which can be ignored or escaped.  The victim is torn both ways, and no matter which way they turn, or how hard they try, they can never win.  The Gaslighter knows the game is rigged, but the victim doesn’t find out until they have exhausted every possible attempt to satisfy the demands of the Gaslighter.

double-bindA few of my own personal examples are as follows:  The Gaslighter regularly complained that he needed me to “make more money”.  Unknown to me, he went behind my back to my family making those same false allegations, while turning on his magnificent “charm”.  It’s important to note that not only was there a heavy guilt trip, demanding that I “do more”, facts were conveniently missing from these statements and demands – the money I was earning already, along with the substantial savings by having no child care expense.

I was already well-trained by the Gaslighter to believe anything that went wrong  must be my fault, and could be fixed if I’d only try harder.  So, I got more employment, but it would require the Gaslighter to help by putting our child on the school bus two mornings per week.  He readily agreed, and so I began the job.  However, after a few weeks, the Gaslighter made vague excuses and suddenly wasn’t available, even though his job allowed him to do it.

This happened repeatedly.  The Gaslighter loudly complaining about a fictitious lack of money for all to hear.  Then I would start a job, only to have him duck out on his responsibilities after a few weeks.  It became a repeating cycle, with the Gaslighter sabotaging my employment every single time.  Yet, he continued blaming me for not earning enough, and complaining about my so-called “unwillingness to work” behind my back to my family, while of course, never admitting that he was purposely sabotaging it.

Another double-bind the Gaslighter manufactured was “losing the house”.  The family home went into foreclosure during the separation, when the Gaslighter stopped paying the mortgage.  However, the mortgage was only in his name, and I had no legal rights to even talk to the bank, much less pay the mortgage.

But yet, I was the only one attending all of the foreclosure court dates downtown at the Chicago Daley Center – alone.  After considerable effort, with the help of a foreclosure community action group, I somehow even managed to work my way up to the very top of management at Bank of America, obtaining an unheard of meeting with the VP of State Government Relations.  This bank executive put me into a cab with her where we went to meet with the underwriter.  A deal was offered that would have allowed us to keep the family home for our child.  They agreed to refinance the loan, and allow me to assume the mortgage after a month’s time.

All the Gaslighter had to do was provide documents directly to the bank to process the refinance, since the mortgage was only in his name.  Then, after refinancing, they would let me assume the loan.  So not only could the family home be saved for our child, the Gaslighter would no longer have a foreclosure on his record.   This was beneficial to him as well.

The VP of Government Relations sent an email to the Gaslighter, outlining the bank’s offer, as well as assurance his information would be confidential, and I would not have access to it.  However, the Gaslighter refused to provide the documents.  He wasn’t asked for any money-only documents.

This double-bind was set up so that he could blame the loss of our house on ME, while omitting the fact that he made it happen.

With this strategy, he was able to falsely portray me as a lazy person who couldn’t be trusted with money, to my family.  These are a few of the tactics that enabled him to influence my elderly, ill father to give him tens of thousands of dollars for family court lawyers, and to sign over my share of our four generation family farm trust to him.  It also enabled him to get money out of my very elderly grandmother.

birdescapecageIt can be a very arduous, painful process, but, the victim can slowly heal from the deep traumas created by the Gaslighter.   In time, with hard work, much perseverance, and a strong support system, the victim can re-claim their own voice.  It may be difficult to see, but there is life out there beyond Gaslighting, abuse, trauma, and social bullying.

ScapegoatNaive, easily-deceived people may be forever lost to us.  And, there are those who will never be able to let go of the Gaslighter’s smear campaign because it serves their psychological need for a scapegoat.  There are also those simply too proud to admit they were duped.  While they may be lost forever, the world keeps turning, life goes on without them, and I wish them well.  But, one by one, many have also quietly come to offer heart-felt apologies for listening to the lies, and participating in the family mobbing, as they have finally taken the time to remember who I am, and investigate all of the facts.

Sadly, the Gaslighter will always be who they are, forever trapped in their sick, compulsive need to control others, and use them to soothe their fragile egos.  But the victim can heal, and there is much joy out there in the real world, free from days spent being traumatized, isolated and exploited by a Gaslighter.

It is important to note, that if you have been fooled or manipulated by a Gaslighter, you are a victim too.  Gaslighters are very highly skilled manipulators, and most people have difficulty seeing through their considerable charm, elaborate layers of lies, subtle manipulations and distortions of the truth, and their seemingly uncanny ability to zero in on each victim’s particular emotional  weak point, to manipulate them for the desired effect.  Most people don’t operate in this purposely deceitful manner, and so they naturally don’t expect others to do so, particular when it is someone you love, trust and admire, or sadly, even rely upon.  Don’t be too hard on yourself, if you too were deceived about the victim.  Victims come to realize that those who were manipulated against them are not really to blame – the real blame lies with the Gaslighter!

Please visit the Resources page for further information on Gaslighting:  Resources

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