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The Truth about the Custody Case Getting International Media Attention, The Women’s Coalition


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The Truth about the Custody Case Getting International Media Attention Mom Raped as Teen Loses Custody to Rapist; Daughter Reports He Raped Her Too Women’s Coalition Jun 19 Crysta and daughter; Judge Jeffrey Cashe International MSM [MainStream Media] is reporting a Louisiana mother’s case as “shocking”, “baffling”, and “confounding”, with expressions like “How could this possibly happen?” They are portraying as bizarre a judge giving a rapist father custody when it happens all the time in family courts around the world. The only shocking thing about Crysta’s case—to those of us who know Family Court—is that the judge got caught enabling the sexually assaultive father. MSM is typically loathe to place blame on judges in custody-cases-gone-wrong and look for other scapegoats. Many are focusing on law enforcement’s failings in Crysta’s case.[To take part in activism on this case, see below.]

CRYSTA’S STORY In 2005, when Crysta was 16, she was raped by a 30 year-old man. That is automatically statutory rape, no judge or jury needed to establish that fact. But Crysta was afraid to report it as a teen and instead allowed people to believe a boyfriend had gotten her pregnant. Six years later, in 2011, the rapist found out he was the biological father of the girl and filed for custody. Crysta’s attorney never informed her she could file charges against the father just assumed it was too late. She was led to believe she had no choice but to allow the rapist into her daughter’s life. The rapist was granted shared custody, despite the undeniable, mathematical fact he had raped Crysta, which could not have escaped the judge’s notice. A few years later, the rapist was ordered to pay child support. Not long after, he filed for 50/50 parenting time in an apparent effort to reduce his child support and perhaps to gain more control. It worked.Judge Jeffrey Cashe granted the rapist’s request for 50/50 and ordered Crysta to make child support payments to him. Later, when she fell behind, her rapist filed a motion to put her in contempt, which Cashe granted. In 2015, Crysta’s trauma counselor informed her it was not too late to file criminal charges against her rapist. So she reported the rape to the local Sheriff, who proceeded to bury it. This fits the pattern of law enforcement aiding and abetting Family Court in covering up sexual abuse by fathers.

THE COVER UP Although the cover up of Crysta’s statutory rape began in 2015 after she reported it to law enforcement, the cover up of her daughter’s abuse began in earnest earlier this year, according to court documents. On February 23rd, Crysta’s then 15 year-old daughter returned from a visit with her father and told her mother he had sexually assaulted her the previous two nights. Crysta took her to the hospital, where they medical evidence of sexual assault was documented. She was interviewed at a Children’s Advocacy Center; criminal charges against the father pended blood and testing results. The next day, Crysta filed for a Restraining Order [RO] with a supporting declaration asserting her daughter had disclosed her father had physically and verbally abused her and threatened to kill her, as well as having sexually assaulted her more than once. Apparently a temporary RO was granted. But on March 21st, the father filed an ex parte (meaning no hearing was held) motion requesting sole custody on the grounds that Crysta had given her daughter a cell phone (which Crysta denies). The ongoing phone issue appears to have been an effort by the father to monitor communications. At the ex parte, Judge Cashe ignored the reports by the daughter that the rapist had physically and verbally abused and sexually assaulted her.  He granted sole custody to the rapist and restricted Crysta to supervised visits.  That is the primary way judges enable paternal sexual assault and cover it up. A common tactic is to give fathers sole custody “temporarily” at an ex parte hearing pending a trial, as Cashe did. The trial is then continued and delayed until the children have been at the abusive father’s so long they are either sufficiently threatened or Stockholmed into saying they want to live with the father. Or the judge rules it’s in their best interest to keep them there after all that time.Judges often order supervised visitation where mothers and children are monitored by a supervisor to make sure they do not talk about the father’s abuse, as Cashe did. They are told they cannot talk about abuse or they will not be able to see each other again. A long-time supervisor says the majority of supervised visitations are not to protect children from abusive fathers, but to silence mothers and children who have reported abuse by the father. I feel like I’m the victim in the situation and I’m being treated and harassed like I’m the criminal.

JUDGE JEFFREY CASHE Judge Cashe had sealed the records, another common tactic in service of the cover up of paternal abuse. It was only when the media pressured him that he unsealed them Wednesday evening, which exposed the cover ups of both the mother’s and daughter’s assaults.

This is not the first time Judge Cashe has given an abusive father full custody. After losing custody to the abuser, a mother filed a complaint with the Judiciary Commission of Louisiana, a citizen of the United states I have the right to a fair trial and due process. I’m a mother trying to protect her 7 year old son and his best interest. Judge Cashe knew exactly what he was doing when he gave the rapist father sole custody, but it is important for the public to understand that he is not an outlier. Most judges uphold the age-old, patriarchal prerogative to sexually access one’s children, in order to maintain their status and privilege within the Old Boy Network. Everyone in Family Court, including Crysta’s own attorneys, went along with Judge Cashe in keeping the father empowered and entitled. It was only when she found advocate Stacie Tiche that things began to turn around.Stacie Tiche, Crysta’s advocate(left); Crysta (right)[The father] should have never been given any rights to the child at all.Stacie Tiche, Crysta’s advocateSTATUS OF TWO CASESThe Sheriff has issued a video statement admitting his deputy “screwed up” the investigation of Crysta’s statutory rape case. He appears to have been made the fall guy for the whole mess, taking focus off Judge Cashe. He’s now sent that case to the District Attorney for investigation, with no mention of investigating the daughter’s reports of sexual assaults.The DA doesn’t have any choice but to charge for Crysta’s staturory rape, but there will likely be a sweet plea deal. There has been no word on the DA charging in the daughter’s reports of at least two sexual assaults. The rape kit appears to have either disappeared, was not tested, or the results buried.DA’s almost always go along with the Family Court cover up of paternal sexual assault—at least with middle to upper middle class white men—as that is part of the overall multi-systemic entitling of men in their family. But with all the media attention, the DA may actually do the right thing and charge Crysta’s daughter’s identified rapist.I just want my daughter home safe and my perpetrator out of our lives for good. My quality of life has suffered tremendously and [this custody case] has bankrupted me.While much media focus is on the criminal case, Judge Cashe said there is not enough evidence of the daughter’s abuse, before even having a hearing on it. There is a hearing on custody in July.First of all, it is illegal to give a child who is a result of a rape to the rapist, so it is not just the teen’s reports of sexual assaults that are at issue. If the teen is saying her father raped her and there is medical evidence corroborating it confirms it, to say there is not enough evidence is just wrong. Only preponderance is necessary in a custody case. This shows the problem is that judges can rule however they want, regardless of the evidence.There is no need for yet another custody hearing. The permanent RO should have been granted to Crysta and can be granted immediately. Since it was illegal for Crysta’s daughter to have been given to her rapist in the first place, an immediate reversal of custody judgment should be ordered.But, even with all the international outrage, Judge Cashe is still forcing Crysta’s daughter, who is now said to be 16, to stay living full time with the rapist, who is likely continuing to abuse and threaten to kill her, all the while being kept away from her loving mother.It is a widespread mistaken belief that when children turn 12, they can live with the parent they choose. Not so. In practice, the father can keep children against their will until they are 18.“SOMETHING MORE GOING ON”It seems like they are protecting him, like there’s something more going on that I don’t know about.Most mothers, like Crysta, who have had the misfortune to find themselves in Family Court, think there must be “something more going on”. It just doesn’t make sense that a judge would ignore substantial evidence of a father’s abuse and switch custody to him.What women don’t realize is that their case is rigged before they even set foot in the courtroom. They don’t realize Family Court is designed to perpetuate male entitlement in the family, especially the fathers’ rights to sexually and otherwise exploit their children.They do not realize they are sheep to the slaughter until it’s too late and they have lost custody of their precious children. And there is nothing they can do about it because the judge has all the power.The Women’s Coalition exists in large part to warn women of this sad state of affairs: that there is no way to keep or protect our children in Family Court, and that we must demand an entirely new system that actually provides due process and equal protection in contested custody cases.ACTIVISMCAMPAIGN TO CASHEIf you’d like to give Judge Jeffrey Cashe a piece of your mind:Call: (225) 686-7461 [voicemail: first press 1; then press 8 for Judge Cashe]Email: lbankston@21stjdc.orgExample:Judge Cashe, I am with The Women’s Coalition and we are disgusted that you took Crysta’s daugher away from her and gave custody to her rapist. You said there is not enough evidence of the sexual assalut of her daughter when there is physical evidence. You need to protect her immediately and allow her to live with her mother. Thank you.ALERT THE MEDIAAlert your local/national media to the truth about Crysta’s case and ask them to do a story on the thousands of mothers who’ve lost custody to an abusive ex/father. Be sure and let them know it is systemic male entitlement/discrimination against women that is causing the Custody Crisis as documented by The Women’s Coalition.You can refer them to these other current cases for examples: LacieSarah MarieRosario, and Elizabeth.You can link to this article and to the Coalition website for more information.SEXUAL ABUSE CASESThe Women’s Coalition is documenting custody cases that involve sexual abuse to support our contention that judges are deliberately disregarding evidence of abuse and enabling fathers.If you reported sexual abuse of your child in Family Court, please take a minute to fill out this form. You may do this anonymously.

IN OTHER NEWS

Thanks to everyone who attended hearings, signed petitions and contacted DA’s in the cases of: LacieSarah MarieRosarioKristina and Elizabeth.

Regrettably, the Family Court judges have not returned their children yet, nor have the DA’s dismissed charges. You can still contact them to request they do.

It is good to let these child abuse enablers know we are watching and will hold them accountable come election time.


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If The Smear Campaign Was Actually True…Lisa Nadig

This is basic common sense: if the smear campaign was actually true…

  1. My ex never would have asked that I have Residential Custody (80/20) in his first two divorce petitions.
  2. I would not be a licensed educator in the state of Illinois – I would have lost my license. Of course I did not.
  3. There would have been DCFS findings against me. Of course there were none. However, there WERE DCFS findings against my ex for instigating false and harassing investigations. This was discussed at length in Dr. Finn’s 604 Custody Evaluation.
  4. I would have been arrested. Of course I was not.
  5. My ex wouldn’t have had to file eight custody petitions to finally manufacture a fraudulent custody switch.
  6. There would have been criminal proceedings against me. Of course there were none.
  7. There would have been no eye-witness to the corruption of the Child Representative – Fraud On The Court: https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/2016/03/30/natalie-koga-confronted-with-eye-witness-to-her-corruption/
  8. There would not have been findings of “Pathological Parental Alienation” against my ex in the court ordered custody evaluation.
  9. The judge, child rep and one of my ex’s lawyers would not have abruptly resigned after being exposed. https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/lawyers-judges-retire-to-make-misconduct-investigations-disappear/
  10. The corrupt Child Rep Natalie Koga would not have had to resort to lying and manipulating to get rid of ethical mental health providers who refused to lie for her, and obtain an order for mental health providers with sanctions on their licenses near the end of the case, to help her manufacture a change of custody – Fraud On The Court. https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/2016/03/30/dr-jonathan-gamze-misconduct-3/ https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/2017/02/25/dr-daniel-fishers-misconduct-with-michael-volpe/
  11. There would have been an actual Evidentiary Hearing in Family Court. No such hearing ever occurred – Fraud On The Court.
  12. There would have been actual evidence against me in the Family Court case. Of course there was none. There was, however, significant evidence against my ex, which the Child Rep hid from the court – Fraud On The Court. https://songsunsilenced.wordpress.com/2019/09/12/a-summary-of-my-case-corruption-legal-financial-abuse-maternal-deprivation-elder-abuse-cyber-stalking-threats/
  13. I would not have received the all clear on my mental health evaluation, while it blamed any trauma on the protracted financial/legal abuse. – Fraud On The Court . https://songsunsilenced.files.wordpress.com/2016/01/nadig-051915-ltrsfromcounselingcenter.pdf

How To Un-Gaslight Kids, Dr. Ramani

Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Clinical Psychologist, Best-Selling Author, Professor of Psychology, Distinguished International Speaker, & Workplace Consultant. Dr. Ramani Durvasula is on a mission to demystify and dismantle the toxic influence of narcissism on all of our lives. She is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Santa Monica and Sherman Oaks, CA and Professor of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, where she was named Outstanding Professor in 2012, and a visiting professor at the University of Johannesburg. She was also the national recipient of the American Association of University Women Emerging Scholar Award. http://doctor-ramani.com

Another great resource on childhood trauma, DV by proxy, and recovery: CarlaCorelli.com

Once, I ran from fear so fear controlled me. Until I learned to hold fear like a newborn. Listen to it, but not give in. Honour it, but not worship it. Fear could not stop me anymore. I walked with courage into the storm. I still have fear, but it does not have me.

http://www.carlacorelli.com/

Weekly Family Court Cabal Update, FB Live w/ Michael Volpe & Megan Fox, Author, 1/5/22

https://www.facebook.com/watch/live/?ref=watch_permalink&v=3131002757179604

Weekly Family Court Corruption Update: The Storm Hits Montana!On today’s stream, investigative journalists Megan Fox and Michael Volpe give updates in the family court nightmares across America. Welcoming into the cabal of corruption is the great state of Montana whose judges are so corrupt they’re making headlines in the Wall Street Journal. Fox has been in communication with the victims in Montana since July. A new series has begun that could be as big or bigger than the St. Louis County scandal. Leaked emails from the Supreme Court show wanton law-breaking and one brave legislator is taking up the cause.https://pjmedia.com/…/montana-judiciary-caught-lobbying…Updates in the Freiner case too with the once missing child now claiming to want to live with the man she accused of molesting her…and the same court that wouldn’t hear her allegations of molestation is suddenly listening to her now that she’s changed her story.https://michaelvolpe.substack.com/…/teenager-now-wants…Special guest and victim of the Illinois family court cartel, Kara Witkowski joins us in the second half of the program to update us on her case. Witkowski is now fighting to get her daughter away from the man she says raped her son to death.All this and more coming soon.

2021 Faces of the Custody Crisis, Women’s Coalition

Thanks to all mothers who’ve participated in our “Faces of the Crisis” project. Our stories help raise awareness about the Custody Crisis in Family Court.

If you’d like to participate, please send your story and a photo of yourself to: WomensCoalitionIntl@gmail.com. [Your story may be edited for brevity, clarity or anonymity.]” https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/faces-of-the-crisis-2021

Another Mom Bullied To Death By Family Court

Family Court Causes Another Mother’s Death

RIP Nia

All she wanted was her kids.

Sian, Nia’s sister

December 16, 2021 The Women’s Coalition

An inquest into a Welsh Mother’s tragic death concluded that the cause of her death was suicide by hanging.

What the report doesn’t say is that it was Family Court that caused Nia to commit suicide by taking and not protecting her children.

Nia’s self-esteem plummeted, she was unable to continue in her career, and she was overwhelmed by the legal proceedings. The loss of custody and inability to protect her children became just too painful for her to bear.

MSM (mainstream media) is reporting that Nia took her life due to “chronic anxiety”. They do not report that her anxiety was justified, caused by Family Court.

Nia’s relationship with the father of her children is framed as “toxic”, which puts the blame equally on her, rather than on his abuse. She was made to feel like she was a bad mother, but her own mother confirmed she was really an excellent mum.

MSM virtually never puts the blame where it belongs—on Family Court judges, and the system itself—when mothers or children lose their lives by suicide or murder when the mother is trying to protect her children from an abusive father in Family Court.

This misreporting by the media of the devastation of mothers and children in Family Courts contributes greatly to the perpetuation of the Crisis. It’s up to social media and internet platforms such as Substack to get the truth about the Custody Crisis.

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ACTIVISM

If you are in the UK, you can write to any of the major MSM outlets that reported on Nia’s suicide. Ask them to report on the real reason Nia is dead: Family Court. You can include a link to this post.

MSM ARTICLE

‘SHINING LIGHT’: Ex-Wales hockey player ‘took her own life after suffering from chronic anxiety’

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New Page-Resources: For Stolen Children & Erased Families

Love has never been conquered, not even by the greatest army.” – Matshono Dhliwayo

Resources page providing support for children who were stolen from a loving parent and family, as well as erased families separated by family by court corruption, Kids For Cash scams, Court Licensed Abuse, Medical Kidnapping, Domestic Violence by Proxy, Parental Alienation, CPS Corruption or Kidnapping:

When Parental Alienation (DV by Proxy) Has You Ready To Give Up, Susan S. Hofer

Being an Alienated Parent is Excruciating

An alienated parent’s life is an excruciating existence, one that takes an enormous amount of energy to live.  The results of your efforts are always filled with disappointment and pain.  What else would you do, in your life, that involves so much fortitude to be rejected every time?  No one likes rejection, but for you, the alienated parent, rejection is your new normal.  Still, it hurts each time you reach out to your precious child only to hear silence.  The wound never gets a chance to heal.https://www.susanshofer.com/when-parental-alienation-has-you-ready-to-give-up/