Monthly Archives: April 2022

The Narcissistic Parent’s Psychological Warfare: Parentifying, Idealizing and Scapegoating, Julie L. Hall

Lacking a moral compass or the ability to act selflessly, narcissist parents create devastating havoc and damage in the lives of their kids. Unlike emotionally mature parents whose priority is to meet their children’s needs, support their healthy development, and respect and nurture their individual identities, narcissist parents put their own needs first and do not recognize their children as separate individuals.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/the-narcissist-parents-psychological-warfare-parentifying_b_59124c7de4b0e070cad709df

Narcissists Get Away With It Because They Are Enabled/Six Things The Enablers of Narcissists Say To You, Dr. Ramani

Dr. Ramani Durvasula is on a mission to demystify and dismantle the toxic influence of narcissism on all of our lives. She is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Santa Monica and Sherman Oaks, CA and Professor of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, where she was named Outstanding Professor in 2012, and a visiting professor at the University of Johannesburg. She was also the national recipient of the American Association of University Women Emerging Scholar Award.

“The reason Narcissits hold so much power in your family, your workplace, and society is because they are enabled. In workplaces nobody wants to kill the “golden goose”, society confuses arrogance and narcissism with confidence, families are scared of the narcissists’s rage, and social media rewards the outrageous, shameless behavior that narcissists are the masters at. The challenge is that once you’ve been woke to this pattern of narcissism, you see it and you can’t unsee it, and not just in the narcissist that has lead you on this journey of becoming more knowledgeable, but also in many people around you. You start to see that you have been playing on a toxic playing field for a long time. But if you know some of the kinds of statements and things that the enablers say, it lets you know that you are in fact potentially dealing with enablers and perhaps you can then stop questioning yourself, set better boundaries and hold onto your own reality.”

How To Un-Gaslight Kids, Dr. Ramani

Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Clinical Psychologist, Best-Selling Author, Professor of Psychology, Distinguished International Speaker, & Workplace Consultant. Dr. Ramani Durvasula is on a mission to demystify and dismantle the toxic influence of narcissism on all of our lives. She is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Santa Monica and Sherman Oaks, CA and Professor of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, where she was named Outstanding Professor in 2012, and a visiting professor at the University of Johannesburg. She was also the national recipient of the American Association of University Women Emerging Scholar Award. http://doctor-ramani.com

DUH!!! The Constitution Does NOT Grant Immunity For Lying To Remove a Child!!! 9th Circuit’s Epic Dis of Court/Gov’t Officials & Social Workers Dubious Claim Of “Right To Lie”.

Definitely an important finding of law, and worth re-posting!

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California’s “Right To Lie” Case, PreslieHardwick v. Orange County, Marcia Vreeken, Elaine Wilkins, The Estate of Helen Dwojack

But we didn’t know you couldn’t lie to the court. DUH!!!Liar, liar pants on fire!!! That line didn’t work on your Mother and it won’t work in Court!

Judge Stephen Trott, 9th Circuit’s Court of Appeals:How in the world could a person in the shoes of your clients possibly believe that it was appropriate to use perjury and false evidence” to remove a child from a parent, askedJudge Stephen Trott, a longtime member of the court appointed by Ronald Reagan in 1987. “How could they possibly not be in notice that you can’t do that?”

The panel did in fact reject the argument, and Trott wrote the opinion, which was released this week. Buried on page 13 is a line that artfully relays his incredulity…

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What Causes Narcissism? Research Is Mixed But Studies Point To Parental Overvaluation, Shahida Arabi

Written by Shahida Arabi, MA

When the term narcissism is used in popular culture, there is usually a definitive statement declaring that all narcissists must have a background of childhood trauma and abuse. However, according to research that’s not always the case – at least, not in the way people definitively describe it.

There have actually been mixed empirical “results” on the causes of narcissism from studies that have investigated it, with some studies showing contradictory results regarding which parenting styles result in grandiose or vulnerable narcissistic traits. The results so far suggest that narcissists may come from a variety of backgrounds – whether that includes overvaluation, lenient parenting, some form of neglect or maltreatment, or a combination of factors.”

https://selfcarehaven.substack.com/p/the-causes-and-origins-of-narcissism?s=r

Dad Murders Mom: Gets Custody, The Women’s Coalition

Kids: Still Property of Men Courtesy of Family Court

Women’s Coalition, April 3, 2022

A Texas Family Court judge granted custody of Anne-Christine’s son to his father, who had confessed to murdering her in a most sociopathic way right in front of the boy.

Children may not be property of fathers on paper anymore, but Anne-Christine’s case is a good example of how the old boys have ensured perpetuation of this most coveted patriarchal perk in practice.

https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/dad-murders-mom-gets-custody?s=r