After many years of walking on eggshells while living under the restrictions, isolation, chaos, distractions, intrusions, negativity, distortions, untruths, half-truths, and manipulations of controlling or oppressive situations, we can become conditioned to remain in survival mode, and to think mainly of the wants and needs of others, even to feel guilty or uncomfortable if we think of our own. We become disconnected from who we really are: our own instincts, perceptions, ideas, needs, goals, aspirations, and interests.
While we are in this process, it helps to be reminded of our basic rights. It may feel unnatural or “off” for awhile to put ourselves first. But, over time, connecting with our true selves becomes more comfortable, and natural. Practice makes perfect. Recovery is possible. Starting off with small steps every day, bigger steps become easier. More avenues and resources appear before us. A new life, free from the control of others is waiting, and it’s worth it! This article I found on Survivor’s Bill of Rights can be very helpful.
Survivor’s Bill of Rights
* to manage your life according to your own values and judgment.
* to direct your recovery, answerable to no one for your goals, effort, or progress.
* to gather information to make intelligent decisions about your recovery.
* to seek help from a variety of sources, unhindered by demands for exclusivity.
FULL ARTICLE: Survivor’s Bill of Rights