Monthly Archives: February 2019

from FB: Judges ordered to under go additional training in dealing with domestic abuse

The worst wounds can be invisible to the eye, but equally as devastating. It is high time Coercive Control was studied and understood for how destructive it truly is.

Here is a great article on how little judges know about dealing with, and alleviating domestic abuse and how they need much more training.

Judges to undergo psychological domestic abuse training

domestic abuseImage copyrightLAURA DODSWORTH
Image captionSome campaigners said the new bill “could change Scotland forever”

Judges and sheriffs in Scotland are to receive special training ahead of a new bill to criminalise psychological domestic abuse.

The online training will focus on knowledge and understanding of the Domestic Abuse (Scotland) Act 2018, which comes into force on 1 April.

Participants will also complete a face-to-face domestic abuse course.

The interactive learning package was commissioned by the Judicial Institute for Scotland.

The face-to-face courses will be held in the Institute’s purpose-built judicial learning suite in Edinburgh.

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Court Upholds Conviction of Michelle Carter In Texting-Suicide Case, Huffington Post

The court ultimately affirmed that Carter’s repeat urging of a “vulnerable person” to kill himself, even as he expressed reluctance, caused his death.

“The crime of involuntary manslaughter proscribes reckless or wanton conduct causing the death of another. The statute makes no reference to restricting or regulating speech, let alone speech of a particular content or viewpoint,” the court stated in its ruling Wednesday. “We are therefore not punishing words alone, as the defendant claims, but reckless or wanton words causing death.”

The evidence against the defendant proved that, by her wanton or reckless conduct, she caused the victim’s death by suicide,” the court concluded.

In A Related Story: Michelle Carter Hit With $4.2 Million Wrongful Death From Ex-Boyfriend’s Mom, Huffington Post

Michelle Carter, the young woman who was convicted in June of involuntary manslaughter after pressuring her boyfriend to kill himself, faces a $4.2 million wrongful death lawsuit brought by the victim’s mother.

Fear, Obligation and Guilt (FOG) After Narcissistic Abuse

Fear, Obligation, and Guilt (FOG) are the triad of emotional abuse. These three feelings can cause an overwhelming amount of self-doubt, anxiety, and unhappiness. Survivors are taught to believe that nothing they do is good enough, that they are inherently bad, and that standing up for yourself will be met with hostility. FOG tears down healthy boundaries and undermines your self-worth. It also lands you in situations where you’re constantly having to do stuff you don’t want to do, taking on an unfair burden of the emotional issues of others.

The first step toward breaking free of this is to notice what’s happening. When we’re “in the FOG”, we’re incapable of seeing the people-pleasing and avoidant behaviors that comprise it. When you stand up for yourself, you may feel afraid of retaliation or dismissal. You may feel guilty, because some part of you believes the feelings of others are more important than your own. You may feel obligated to remain in a dynamic that doesn’t suit you, because this person was nice to you at one point.

Working The 5 Phases of Trauma Recovery After Narcissistic Abuse by Kim Saeed:  “

When people think of trauma, they tend to imagine isolated events like natural disasters or car accidents. But trauma can take many forms. Narcissistic abuse is a soul-crushing form of trauma because it slowly builds up like an avalanche. In many cases, it affects your identity on a very deep level for several years. That’s why healing from narcissistic abuse is an ongoing process – not an instantaneous event. Healing from complex trauma and PTSD from narcissistic abuse requires a much different approach than recovering from isolated traumatic events.”